When you say to yourself “I can’t”, is this true?  I mean is it absolutely true that you can’t?  Or are you telling yourself porkies?  And … if you’re being dishonest with yourself, what is it that you’re avoiding saying? 

Challenging questions?  They’re meant to be.

The word can’t is a contraction of the word cannot.  I bet if you replaced the word can’t with cannot, you might think twice about saying it.  I hear a lot of people saying that they can’t do this or they can’t do that, when really they are choosing not to.  It’s often an automatic response.