Sometimes it's not up to us to 'fix' other peoples' issues. How often have you given unsolicited advice? Told someone what you think they should do? Quoted a reference or source that you consider could be helpful? Yes - I certainly have. Here's the more important question ... did the other person want or ask for, your advice or opinion?
When you say to yourself “I can’t”, is this true? I mean is it absolutely true that you can’t? Or are you telling yourself porkies? And … if you’re being dishonest with yourself, what is it that you’re avoiding saying?
Challenging questions? They’re meant to be.
The word can’t is a contraction of the word cannot. I bet if you replaced the word can’t with cannot, you might think twice about saying it. I hear a lot of people saying that they can’t do this or they can’t do that, when really they are choosing not to. It’s often an automatic response.
Friday, 16 March 2018 - 12:50pm